From a reader:
Thank you for all you do. Your constant reminder to go to Confession is appreciated and I, my wife, and older son go regularly. Although I may sometimes dread the thought, like a good workout, I feel much better afterwards.
My younger son was recently preparing for First Communion and Confirmation. Although first Confession was not part of the “program” (that’s another story) we wanted our son to make is First Confession prior to receiving Our Lord for the first time.
My wife particularly was very diligent in preparing him for his first Confession.
Examination of Conscience – check
Prayer before Confession – check
Ten Commandments – check
7 Deadly Sins – check
Act of Contrition – check
We thought we had it all covered and my son was well prepared for his first Confession yet we left one small detail out.
My younger son has a particularly loud voice and we neglected to tell him to speak quietly to the priest while making his Confession. Unfortunately as a result a good number of the parish know just how many times he slugged his older brother in the past week.
These parents are to be commended!
And the loud voice warning is a a good practical point.
Of course a quick review of my 20 Tips For Making A Good Confession might have helped with that whole loudness thing.
This is really really really important also for adults to take to heart too, especially if you are a little hard of hearing and don’t realize you are speaking loudly. I have had to quiet penitents make good confession who were perhaps announcing to the line outside the confessional some pretty nasty stuff.
The point the writer made is good. Tell children to be very quiet.
Many are the times I have slid open the little door to have a youngster roar, in that sing-song staccato kids use when they have memorized something
“BLESS – ME – FA-THER – I – HAVE – SINNED….”
At that point I usually say with a strong whisper,
” *okay… just whisper and I’ll hear you just fine… we don’t want anyone out there to hear you, do we?* ”
” *no* ”
” *Do you know how to whisper? * ”
” *yah* ”
” *okay go ahead* ”
“BLESS – ME – FA-THER – I – HAVE – SINNED….”
Repetita iuvant.
I will also add…. “Although first Confession was not part of the “program” (that’s another story)…”
?!?
What’s with that?
If it indeed the case that the parish is not providing for children getting ready for First Communion to make their first confession, I think the local bishop should be informed “for his opportune knowledge”.