I have been asked to be my nieces godmother but I have to make my confirmation. The lady at the church [?] told me I can not do so until I have my marriage convalidated by the church. I have talked to several people and they find that odd. My husband (who is Methodist) is going to be the godfather is weary about it finds it extremely odd as well. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.
I’m not sure who the “lady at the church” is – and sometimes these nameless and titleless people can have some odd ideas – but here, the lady at the church seems to be right on point.
If one is Catholic, one is bound to have one’s marriage celebrated in the Church. This is not just a matter of canon law, though that it important. This is a matter of following the Church’s teachings on marriage. We must also attend to the traditional Precepts or Commandments of the Church.
To be a confirmation sponsor, one must be a baptized and a confirmed Catholic in good standing. That only makes sense. How can one be a source of encouragement and guidance to the Catholic life for neophytes if one is not fully living a Catholic life oneself?
Getting your marriage convalidated (which is not just getting the marriage “blessed”, for you’ll be instructed and asked to place a new act of consent as you are entering into something new) will allow you to return to the reception of the sacraments of reconciliation and Holy Communion.
I presume that you’ve been informed that if your marriage is not recognized by the Church, you are not able to receive the sacraments.
If one wanted to be a godparent, one would similarly want to receive the sacrament of Confirmation and have one’s marriage celebrated in the Church as well.
Do not fall into the trap of seeing any of this as a “burden” or a “hoop” to jump through. This all makes perfectly good sense.
Another quick point: your husband, who is not Catholic, will technically not be a godparent, but a “Christian witness” to the baptism. Only those who are fully initiated Catholics can serve as godparents. A godparent is there to serve as a guide for the child in the Catholic life. Only those who are living the Catholic life can provide that service.