I’m a consevitive ctholic teen and my friends are not and when they ask about my faith I try my best to answer correctly but then we get to Gay’s and why don’t we except them, I don’t know how to answer them with them thinking that being a catholic is crule and judgmentle how would you respond?
First… spelling, dear, spelling.
There may have been times and places in the past when being a faithful Catholic was easy, when society at large supported the moral teachings of the Church. Sadly, those times have been few and far between.
For the most part, throughout history, being Catholic has meant to stand in opposition to what large swaths of society believe.
We have many examples from the lives of the saints on which to pattern our response to society. Our response may require us to withdraw from society, like St. Antony of Egypt or St. Mary of the Desert. Elsewise, we must confront society boldly, even though we know that there will be serious, even lethal, repercussions, like St. Thomas More, St. Charles Lwanga, and the countless martyrs of Spain, Mexico, Russia, and so forth. St. Charles, by the way, was killed because of his opposition to a homosexual pedophile king. HERE Sometimes, our interaction with society can take a middle ground. We can work to reform it without trying outright to overturn it, like St. John Damascene, St. Catherine of Siena, St. Katherine Drexel.
Yes, I expect you to pull out books about the saints or do some internet searches.
Another thing which you should read is the Holy See’s Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church “On The Pastoral Care of Homosexual Persons”.
Now to your specific question. It can be difficult to explain the Church’s stance to those who are convinced that homosexual activity is natural, normal, or harmless. They think the Church is harsh when it says that those who have sexual attractions to member of the same sex must learn to control their urges and be chaste. These days, people aren’t used to being told that something is bad. They live in their urges and appetites, which they now habitually satiate without delay. Since their arguments (responses, really – arguments rarely make an appearance) come largely from an emotional or hormonal perspective, presenting them with a rational argument will rarely be successful.
Perhaps one tack might be to say, “If I am convinced that what you are doing is harming you, and I were to do nothing to help you to stop, would I be acting out of love? Love sometimes requires us to say something we know won’t be well received.”