Marriage Tips from a Couple Married for 87 Years

From the National Organization for Marriage:

Marriage Tips from a Couple Married for 87 Years

Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher married on May 13, 1924.  In 2008, they broke the Guinness World Record for being the longest married living couple.  Both died at the age of 105–Herbert in 2011 and Zelmyra in 2013.

Before their deaths, the Fishers answered fourteen questions about their relationship and what made their marriage last for nearly 90 years.  One of their tips will comfort anyone who is preparing for marriage or hoping to strengthen his or her marriage:

“There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other and our family.”

Here are a few of the questions the Fishers answered:

What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?

Respect, support, and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest, and true. Love each other with ALL of your heart.

You got married very young – how did you both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?

Everyone who plants a seed and harvests the crop celebrates together. We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?

Remember marriage is not a contest, never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.

What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?

We are both Christians and believe in God. Marriage is a commitment to the Lord. We pray with and for each other every day.

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  1. Doug R says:

    This is fantastic – thanks for posting!

  2. TopSully says:

    I married at age 35 so we unfortunately won’t make it to our 87th, but what a blessing for this couple.

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  4. AvantiBev says:

    Loved this. Thanks, Father Z. I work for divorce attorneys and see American society being destroyed one foundational stone at a time, so this was a nice little reminder that God is at work out there.

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