From a reader…
Hoping you can help me approach this situation correctly in future. Confession at parish is daily from 11:30 to 12 and mass starts at 12:10. Many times I arrive early and there is already a line so I do not make it to confession and have to come back. Today I arrived around 12:45 and two people were ahead of me. Father came out at 12:55 and stated that he had no more time for confession “next time come earlier”. I would have gladly waited until after mass. It he kept repeating louder and louder “no come earlier next time I waited 10 minutes and no one came.” This was very frustrating and embarrassing because people waiting for mass were now turning to see why father was speaking so loudly. Two other penitents and I left and drove away and I was saddened for them as well. Unfortunately since I work I can only come for confession during a small window of time so now I will go without Eucharist for another weekend probably until next week when I can go again. How can I approach this better? Should I look for another parish with a different time or ask to make an appointment? Thanks for your advice.
You might consult this:
Arriving on time for confessions is a good idea. It is one of my tips.
Another tip is that priests sometimes have bad days.
Moreover, bearing wrongs patiently is a work of mercy.
You might share with that priest what you shared with me. Tell him how you felt about all that.
At the same time, it is good that Father is going to church to hear confessions. In some places they don’t get off their backsides and go over to sit in the box at all.
You are going to have to work the timing of this out on your own. If you need to go earlier, go earlier.
And don’t be one of those people who ramble on and on and on, taking up all the time for confessions.
And FATHERS! Be BRIEF! You ramble too. Oh how many times have I pounded my head gently against the grate thinking, “Just give me absolution”, as the priest shared yet another pearl of his wisdom from the sermon that he was going to preach later in the afternoon.
Everyone. Do your good examination BEFORE. Fathers, keep it BRIEF and don’t let people just ramble.
Thanks in advance.
And GO TO CONFESSION!