From a reader:
I am newly back to the Church (just over a year) and attend daily mass frequently (NO). [Great!] I have been approached twice now asking to either regularly do the readings or help out as a Eucharistic Minister. I politely declined each time stating that I am not comfortable and don’t feel called to do that. I am female btw. I’m sensing a bubbling frustration from those who do because it’s the same small group of people who are filling these positions and the rest of us “won’t help”. My questions are: Should I feel guilty for not helping? Am I obligated to? What happens when no one steps forward, will daily mass discontinue? I really dislike feeling this pressure. I just want to go to mass and quietly worship God and not feel stressed out about not helping or if I do end up helping, stressing out about when it’s time for me to go up, etc. Am I being selfish?
Should I feel guilty for not helping?
Am I obligated to?
Will daily mass discontinue?
Am I being selfish?
If you don’t want to do this, you don’t have to do this.
Furthermore, it is not obligatory to have a lay woman read at Mass. If a Mass is cancelled because there is no woman to read or distribute Communion… well… that priest might just be the stupidest priest in the world.
You might tell Father that you want to be left alone and simply participate at Mass with full, active and conscious participation by being quiet and receiving what the Lord has to give.