If a person is remarried with children and cannot get an annulment on their first marriage do they have to divorce before they can receive communion? Does not receiving communion mean a persons eternal life is in jeopardy? Is it better for the new family to divorce even though God hates divorce?
Such a person should sit down and talk with their trusted parish priest.
A couple possible solutions may be available in this situation.
If the couple have children, and are serious, the pastor might permit them to utilize what has been called the “brother – sister” solution. That is, if they agree to refrain from sexual activity and live together chastely and with continence, keep quiet about their situation so as not to cause scandal among their parishioners, and remain together to provide something of a normal family life for their children, then they might be able to receive Holy Communion.
NOTA BENE: Couples in this situation should not apply the “brother-sister” solution themselves! They should take the advice of their pastor. It is not a right. There may be reasons why, in a particular situation, this solution might not apply.
Even so, if the couple is in a situation where they may not receive Holy Communion, they should not despair of salvation. They should – actually they must – continue to attend Mass. They should participate in the activities of the parish as much as possible. They can participate, as everyone can, in Holy Hours, Stations of the Cross, etc.
They may make Spiritual Communions.
They should pray privately, acknowledging their situation and asking God for a solution. They should raise their children in the faith.
Even if no solution is possible, they may eventually be able to receive the sacraments in danger of death. Thus, St. Joseph should be their powerful patron and intercessor.
Sometimes suffering is part of the path we must walk.
Not every situation we can get ourselves into has a painless solution.