From a reader…
My wife and I are going to have our third child in November. We are having a hard time finding someone in the family to be our child’s Godparents when we baptize him/her.
Our main problem is basically that since the Church sets out that Godparents must have been Confirmed to be able to serve as a child’s baptismal Godparent, we have no close relatives to turn to.
Each of our first two boys had only one Confirmed relative as Godparent and the second one had to serve/sign as a mere witness – because they were not Confirmed.
What we are facing now is that all of our remaining closest relatives (brothers, sisters, cousins) – are not Confirmed.
(And both of us have large families (20 plus), almost all educated in Catholic schools!)
1. Opting FOR having someone
Question A: if we choose the relatives we are closest to (who are NOT Confirmed) ¿how bad is it for our child to have mere Baptismal witnesses and no Godparents?
(Complicated) Question B: ¿how bad is it for us parents and child if we “fish” for a priest (and there are many where we live in Portugal) who – against Church teachings – does not consider prior Confirmation a necessary requisit for someone to be Godparent?
1. Opting AGAINST having anyone
– Question A: is this really an option?
– Question B: if it is – how bad is it for a child not to have witnesses or Godparents?
Complicated way to place the question. I think I got that.
Having a godparent is important for baptism, not for validity, but for liceity.
Why not have the same relatives who served as godparents for the first two serve as godparents for the third (fourth, fifth, six, and seventh when they come along, too!)?
There’s nothing that limits the number of times one can serve as a godparent.
Additionally, godparents need not come from one’s blood relations. Friends, fellow parishioners, and so forth all can serve as godparents.
If it’s the custom that sponsors come from your family and family members question why neighbor Paolo is godfather this time instead of a relative, consider the reply:
“Because, apparently, no one in the family considers the Faith important enough to get confirmed.”
Blood may be thicker than water, but faith in Our Lord and the Church He founded is thicker than both.