I’m a sophomore in high school, and this past summer I was inspired to wear a veil. I recently obtained one and I suppose I’ll wear it at school Masses now. The thing is, I go to a Catholic school, but no one there really believes in Catholicism and most people there are just there because their parents are rich. Also, my friend recently started wearing a veil, a small black one that isn’t very noticeable, and one of the teachers of whom I have a deathly fear was glaring at her! I’m terrified to wear my veil, which is long and white and very noticeable, because of what both my classmates and my teachers will say and think of me. How should I gather my courage for the school Masses to come? What should I do?
First, I commend your desire to wear a chapel veil. This is a custom that ought to be revived.
High school is tricky business with plenty of land mines. You are old enough to want to make autonomous choices, but you are not yet wholly autonomous.
You should discuss this with your parents and make sure that they will back your choice.
That said, stick with your friend. Sit by her during Mass if you are free to sit where you want.
I don’t know enough about your exact circumstances to make a call on this, but, if your veil is “very noticeable” I’d think three times about it. You might be accused of only wanting to draw attention to yourself. You might find several more girls who would like to use the veil and then you can all give support to your friend together. Also, perhaps you (and they) might find veils similar to your friend’s veil, a bit more discreet.
This is important: you must be very well versed in explaining why you want to use the chapel veil. It isn’t a fashion accessory. Be sure that it isn’t “about you”.
Prayerful best wishes for this.