From a reader…
At our parish the head of the RE [Religious Education] is adamant that no child is allowed sacramental prep without having come to RE for a minimum of one year with good attendance. We home school and our RE and Sacramental prep are way way better than what they use (which is so bad that I refuse to volunteer to teach because they require the teachers to USE that horrid “curriculum”) but I have no idea how to handle this when everything sacramental prep is referred to the RE. She is in control.
She may be in control de facto but the pastor is really in control de iure. The Code of Canon Law says that parents are the primary educators determining the timing of Communion for their children, together with the pastor. There is no mention of a “religious ed teacher”. I wrote recently about similar matters HERE.
You should approach the pastor of your parish to discuss this with him. If he is intractable, then approach the pastor of another parish and work it out with him.
You are not obliged to receive Communion only at one parish.