From a reader:
My fiancee is wrangling about whom to choose as her maid of honor. [I can almost hear the writer’s inner voice: "For pity’s sake… just pick someone! Now… is there a game on?"] She has a cousin she is close to that seems to be a natural fit based solely on their relationship, but the cousin is not Catholic. [AYEEEIE?!?] I know this is not the same thing as a godparent or Confirmation sponsor, but is there any reason, symbolic or otherwise, that a protestant should not be chosen?
In an ideal world, pal, everyone would be Catholic.
But… now a deeper question which you must be sure to bring up with your fiancee and her mother with all her friends present.
Are the maids of honor she chose really maids?
Isn’t "maid" an archaic term for, you know… the "v" word?
This is a far more serious issue and it must be worked though.
And what it they don’t actually bring in the breakfast trays in large houses?
What if they are actually matrons?!? You know… not so … young anymore?
Then suggest that the time of the wedding should be changed because there is a good game on and that the white dress makes your beloved’s backside look just a little too big.
I guarantee that you will be able to have a calm and reasonable discussion about all these things, perhaps over WDTPRS mugs filled with richly brewed fresh and aromatic Mystic Monk Coffee.
Friend, if there must be maids of honor and bride’s maids, yes, Protestants can be bride’s maids, even a "maid" of honor. And, if you care, so can be the … what do you call the guys again?
Seriously… as if that wasn’t serious… usually the maid of honor and the best man stand as witnesses who can sign a civil document, the license, saying that they saw you the blissful couple tie that knot. They can be non-Catholic. Their names will also be added to the parish’s register recording your marriage, again as witnesses. They need not be Catholic to be witnesses. You could also have different people serve as witnesses, since – probably – lots of other people will be there. Usually, however, it is the maid/matron of honor and the best man who sign off.
No bridesmaids were harmed in the writing in this post.
WDTPRS will not be responsible for harm to grooms.
Any harm done to grooms is solely the responsibility of the grooms
PS: No Communion for the non-Catholics!