From a reader:
I will make this short. Why is the name of the person for whom the
Mass is beign said not mentioned by the priest any more?
There is no hard and fast universal custom about this from priest to priest or place to place.
Some people, however, who get used to this really take it to heart if they don’t hear the name they want to hear when they are used to hearing it. What results is an awkward confrontation in the sacristy when a 4’2″ Italian immigrant nonna with cataracts starts stabbing her sausage-like finger at the equally old visiting Vietnamese priest who has no idea what she is talking about. “I comma here and I paya for dis Messa ana you no saya da name. Whya you no saya da name?”
Some priests say the name during the Eucharistic Prayer or before Mass or at sermon time in the announcements. Some don’t say the name at all. However, be sure that – if it is a parish Mass and there is an intention – the priest has checked before Mass and has the intention in mind. Mass was said for the intention you asked for whether you heara da name o no heara da name.
Relax about this. If you are curious about a priest’s practice, wait until you are very calm and then, someday, ask him about it.