From a reader…
Would it be better (in order for the priest to have more time with the penitent) to make an appointment for confessing VERY grave sins (something even the most lenient person would say needs confessing) or should you just go at the beginning of the normally scheduled time?
Thank you in advance. Your insight into confession is invaluable.
I don’t see why a person needs more time to confess “VERY grave sins”. Just tell the priest what you did, how many times or often, and include any relevant information about the circumstances. In other words, cut to the chase and just say it. That doesn’t take a lot of time.
If a person has a lot to confess, or is uncertain about how to make a good confession and wants help from the priest, or if for some reason advice is needed – which might take longer – then consider an appointment so that you are not taking up too much of the scheduled confession time.
BTW… priests don’t always want “more time with the penitent”. They usually are content for you to be brief and be gone, so they can hear more confessions.
Make a good examination of conscience before getting into the confessional. That really helps.
GO TO CONFESSION!
And don’t ramble.