From a reader:
I wore my black mantilla (it blends in with my dark brown hair better) to an OF Mass this evening for the second time (no issues the first time), but after I arrived, a group of chatty and gossipy elderly women came and sat behind me. [Is the technical term “biddies”? (as I now cautious back out of the room…)] When I turned around during the Sign of Peace, and (I’m assuming) realized how young I was, she scoffed me, and another one wouldn’t shake my hand.
I’m single and can legitimately wear white, so the last thing I want is for people to think otherwise of me. Do I still have to worry about the connotations behind black and white veils that elderly people might have?
Why did the image of Monty Python’s Granny Gang just pop into my head?
And now for something completely different…
Back to our topic.
I, for one, am glad when women decide to to return to this custom. Kudos.
First, while I believe that there may be some connotation to colors (e.g., black for the married and widows, white for the nubile) you can wear any color veil that it pleaseth you to wear. I suggest avoiding blaze orange, unless its autumn.
Second, did the old woman scoff, really, or did you just imagine that she did?
Third, perhaps it is a blessing in disguise that you got to avoid a handshake o’ peace.
Seriously, you have to determine for yourself whether or not you care. They’ll probably get used to you in a little while. Some may start using a veil themselves.
However, you may from time to time have to take a little heat from a scoffing ninnyhammer, feckless gowk, Fishwrap subscriber, or excerebrose flibbertigibbet.
If you have a run in with your local granny gang again, invite them out to coffee afterwards and you can ask them if it was the color they objected to or to the wearing of any veil. Be nice to them. If nothing else, you will have followed Proverbs 25:22.
On your mark! Get set! ….