From a reader:
Help, my daughters wedding was yesterday and I was stuck, what is an appropriate tip or gratuity for the our parish Priest, besides what the parish charges, 20 50 100 I’m lost. After the Mass I just stood there and didn’t want to look cheap or stupid. Your view would be of great service here Father
It is appropriate to give the priest something after a wedding.
It strikes me that $100 not too much. It could be more.
The priest has the right to "live from the altar", as the old phrase goes. The local diocese may have a policy about Mass stipends and "stole fees", as these "tips" to the priest are called. It is the priest’s responsibility to handle them properly once he receives them.
In addition to the stole fee, there are three more things people can give priests which they will very much appreciate:
- Give the priest a hand by making sure that people behave properly during the rehearsal and set up time before the wedding.
- Give the priest a hand by making sure the church is spotless after the wedding (there are often Masses in parishes on a Saturday afternoon).
- Give the priest is zero pressure to go to the reception.