From a reader:
Having attended my first Requiem Mass yesterday I must say that I am absolutely shocked they got rid of it and replaced it with the current funeral Mass. Going to Mass last night and actually getting to pray for the souls of my relatives (as opposed to “celebrating their lives”) who died in the past few years made up for their distasteful funerals with inappropriate humour, instant canonizations, etc. Granted I didn’t enjoy getting all sad and weepy throughout and after, but I am so happy it was able to give me the peace I needed to quit being so angry over what transpired during their funerals.
Friends, please pray for the dead rather than merely “celebrate their lives”.
There is room for celebration, of course. But what the dead really need from us, and what we in charity really need to do for them, is pray for them.
Strive especially in these first days of November to gain indulgences for your loved ones.
It is so very Catholic to pay attention to opportunities for indulgences and then make plans around them.
Your effort to obtain indulgences will also, necessarily, take you to the confessional.
Perhaps you priests out there could expand availability for confessions around those times when people can gain indulgences? And perhaps talk about them from the pulpit and in the bulletin?