From a reader:
Is it right for a pastor to refuse a family’s request for a certain priest to say the funeral mass of a loved one?
There is no way to answer your question, given the lack of additional information needed to understand what is really going on.
The arrangement of funerals often must occur when people are under great stress. Emotions may be high and clear thinking may be low. It can happen in some cases that people think they should be able to have or do A, B, or C simply because they want A, B or C.
On the other hand, the Church and her ministers must maintain good order with the celebration of Holy Mass and with all her rites, including all rites having to do with her deceased members.
In general pastors of parishes will accommodate a visiting priest for a funeral or wedding. However, it may be that the circumstances in the diocese, diocesan policy, require the parish priest to be more restrictive. In those cases, the pastor is forced to say ‘no’.
The question, though it lacked details and is thus unanswerable, if I understand its tone correctly, was not without a measure of anger. Whatever else I can offer here, don’t work things through with the pastor in anger.
The most important thing is this situation is not so much your feelings – though they are not unimportant – but rather prayers for the person who has died. Funerals are to help the living, it is true, but they are mostly for the sake of prayers for the dead. It is possible to lose sight of that in the midst of the pain of loss of a loved one.